Eight minutes -
that is all the time it takes to meet a stranger of the
opposite sex and know whether you'd like to see him or her
again.
At least that's the concept behind a new trend in the
dating world.
8minuteDating, a Boston company, recently sponsored
a local singles mixer with the eight-minute twist.
Kerri Walker, the event coordinator from Atlanta, was the
upbeat hostess and referee who issued the challenge to 30
local singles at The Partridge Inn for the first event of its
kind in Augusta.
Judy Boyd, a lawyer stationed at Fort Gordon, was one of
Augusta's guinea pigs.
"I am new to Augusta
and thought this would be a good way to meet people," she
said. "I have friends who have done this in Philly and Atlanta
and had a good time."
8minuteDating is one of several companies that are
capitalizing on the idea of express dating (also called speed
dating, hurry dating or pre-dating, depending on the company).
The events are designed to introduce participants to as many
of the opposite sex (or same sex if the event is so
designated) as possible through a program similar to musical
chairs. For about $30, singles can meet at least half a dozen
prospective dates.
The companies do not screen participants. They simply
provide an environment conducive to meeting. In fact, the
rules state that participants not exchange last names, phone
numbers or other personal information at the event. They
recommend participants use the same precautions as meeting a
stranger in a club.
After the event, each participant logs on to the Web site
and lists any person they would like to have future contact
with. (Categories are friendship, business or dating)
The company
will exchange contact information between any two people who
are mutually interested in each other for the same categories.
Ms. Boyd said she enjoyed the event because of the variety
of people she met in one night.
"And there is no obligation beyond the eight minutes," she
said.
Ms. Boyd's evening resulted in a few matches.
"You can tell when you are clicking with someone, even
within eight minutes," she said.
Mark McGlinchey, one of the men at Saturday's event, said
he looks forward to doing it again, even though he didn't make
any particular connections this time.
"I am a dating commando and am committed to being on the
prowl again," he said.
Now that he's done it, he feels better prepared for the
next time.
"I was not sure what to expect because I had never done
anything like this before," he said. "All I knew was that I
was going to talk to at least eight single women for at least
eight minutes each and that was better than wasting the night
away in a bar or staying at home on a Saturday night."
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| Singles
such as Judy Boyd and David Dvorak can meet many
prospective dates in one session.
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Although
Augusta's first event had only 30 participants, events can
include as many as 100.
"The number of participants was pretty standard for the
first event. I am very hopeful that we could see numbers up to
100 the next time around," Ms. Walker said.
The trend started with a Jewish organization called Aish
HaTorah in January 1999, which created SpeedDating in hopes of
encouraging more Jews to marry inside their faith. The idea
quickly caught on and now there are several national companies
recruiting singles for their events.
Though most work the same way, there are variations in the
way they conduct events and the number of "dates" each
participant has in one night.
Tom Jaffe, founder and president of 8minuteDating,
started his company in December 2000.
"Having been single myself, I knew there was a need for a
better, more efficient way for single people to meet one
another," he said. "The odds of actually meeting someone in a
bar are very low, because everyone has their guard up. At
8minuteDating there are no games, no pick-up lines,
just comfortable conversation."
Vince Gelormine, CEO and founder of Pre-Dating Events in
Fort Lauderdale, Fla., which focuses solely on single
professionals, said it is dating at its most efficient.
You can't predict who will hit it off, based on interests
and hobbies, he said. "What we've learned in doing this, is
people need to decide for themselves. This way, you can see
not only how they looked, but how they talked."
HurryDate, a similar company based in New York, offers its
participants 25 three-minute dates in one chaotic night.
Adele Testani, co-founder and president, said the HurryDate
participant is outgoing and confident.
"It's such a unique night out. Mostly, it's people who are
looking for fun," she said. "It's a high-energy, crazy kind of
atmosphere."
HurryDate just announced its first wedding on record.
Jenny Hust and Bryan Murray, both of Atlanta, met at the
March 13 HurryDate event and are planning a June wedding. The
couple both received five "matches" each from the party, but
neither went out with any of them but each other.
Although there have been rumors of other HurryDate
engagements, this is the first "on-record" engagement the
company knows about.
"We are just so pumped! What more could we want for our
HurryDaters?" said president and cofounder Adele Testani.
IF YOU'RE INTERESTED
Dating companies to contact for express
dating:
http://erlang.voxel.net/
Participants have eight eight-minute dates with a 20-minute
intermission. Event categories cover a range of interests,
such as single professionals, black professionals, same sex,
religion preference and single parents. 8minuteDating
will play host to a second event Saturday, Oct. 5 at 7 p.m.
See the Web site for details.
http://www.hurrydate.com/
Participants have 25 three-minute dates at one event.
http://www.pre-dating.com/
Solely for single professionals. Participants have 12
six-minute dates at one event. Event categories include a
range of interests, such as athletic singles, interracial
singles, senior singles (55 and older), marriage-minded
singles.
Reach Lisa M. Lohr at (706) 823-3332 or lisalohr@augustachronicle.com.